Living is easy than dying

Mati. Hidup. Mati. Hidup. Ah, kayak lampu kelap-kelip aja yach. Kalau lampu sih gampang, bisa kita atur, mau mati atau hidup kapan saja. Tapi hidup dan mati seseorang berada di luar kendali manusia.
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Bulan Februari kemarin ini dua orang rekan anggota milis penerjemah yang aku ikuti meninggal pada hari yang sama. Yang satu menutup mata karena kanker otak, yang satu lagi karena kanker tulang/lutut.
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Beberapa hari kemudia, ada kakak kelas yang juga meninggal karena kanker (aku lupa, apakah kanker usus atau kanker yang lain).
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Tapi kalau memang sudah saatnya, siapa saja bisa meninggal dunia, entah itu karena sakit atau sebab lain. Akhir tahun lalu pelawak Basuki mendadak tewas setelah ikut kegiatan olah raga. Rekannya, Taufik Savalas, juga meninggal karena kecelakaan lalu lintas.
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Bahkan ada juga orang yang meninggal hanya karena digigit nyamuk, kebetulan nyamuknya membawa virus deman berdarah atau malaria…. .
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American Cancer Society memperkirakan sekitar 1,3 juta perempuan di seluruh dunia tahun ini diketahui terkena kanker payudara dan hampir 500.000 meninggal. Informasi itu disebut dalam milis breastcancer2@yahoogroups.com yang berpusat di Amerika.
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Hi… serem ya?
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Kalau pikiran kita dipenuhi dengan hal yang serem2, ya tentu kita jadi terpengaruh. Jadi khawatir dan stres. Dan keadaan jadi tambah runyam. Daripada memikirkan hal2 yg negatif, mendingan kita mikir yang enak2 aja…
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Coba kita simak komentar Jan, salah seorang anggota milis di yahoo group itu.
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“As far as I'm concerned, survival rates are for the insurance companies and statisticians. I hear a line during CSI:Miami last night. One of Horatio's female friends (lead detective) is battling breast cancer. She had a friend shot right in front of her. At the end of the show, Horatio found her gazing out the window. When he asked her what she was thinking, she said, "I have been battling this horrible monster for sometime and battling it to keep from dying. After I saw my friend die right in front of me, it came to me that I have forgotten how to live."
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"I think this statement is more true that at least I would like to think. We seem to get caught up in the treatments of chemo/radiation to kill the cancer cells so we won't die from bc. We take aromatase inhibitors for 3-5 years or tamoxifen or something similar so we won't die from this disease or so it won't recur. We do all of this so we won't die from this disease.
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"Wouldn't it be a strange twist to do all of these things so that we can live and enjoy our children, grandchildren, family and friends and our lives with whatever quality of life we have?
It has taken me some time to come to that conclusion and believe me when I say that I have had moments when I do the aromasin so that I won't die. But it seems more positive use of my energy to use it in living rather than worrying about dying. That will come soon enough for all of us naturally and within a timeframe in which we actually have no control. So I say to heck with dying (bahasa gaulnya…. HIV…. Hemang Ikke Vikirin….. ) Living is easy than dying anyway."
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Sekarang kita dengarkan pendapat Kate:
"Statistics can make your head spin and can make you think negative thoughts. Sure, we all worry about dying, but we can't spend our time worrying. We need to use that precious time to concentrate on living the best lives we can, no matter our "stage" or prognosis or our likely statistical outcome. They are just numbers. I have way too much living to do to worry about dying. My mother died of breast cancer, she just gave in to the negative aspects of her diagnosis and I refuse to do that."

Lalu Jenny berkomentar :
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"I totally agree with you. It's focusing on the positive instead of the negative. I have a tremendous support system of the entire spiritual community I live in. Focusing on my blessings has made this journey much easier and more pleasant for me. I have so many. Thank you for affirming life instead of death."
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Nah.. jadi begitulah… Intinya, daripada memkirkan kematian, mending kita pikirkan kehidupan … Buang jauh2 pikiran negatif dan kembangkanlah pikiran positif. Syukuri hal2 yang menyenangkan yang masih bisa kita nikmati … seperti membaca tulisan ini…. Bersyukur karena bisa membaca (menurut WHO, pada tahun 2002 terdapat lebih dari 161 juta orang di dunia yang cacat penglihatan, dengan rincian 124 juta orang dengan penglihatan terganggu dan 37 juta lainnya buta) … Bersyukur karena bisa membaca melalui komputer yang menunjukkan bahwa paling tidak kita masih berada di atas garis kemiskinan (menurut BPS, ada lebih dari 37 juta rakyat miskin di Indonesa di tahun 2007 atau 16,58 persen dari jumlah penduduk)…. Bersyukur karena bisa membaca blog yang mempesona dan tiada duanya di dunia ini…… :)